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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2013 10:14:02 GMT -8
Do you two ladies know each other or have a friendship?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2013 10:44:49 GMT -8
Yes! We are good friends!  |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2013 13:20:23 GMT -8
Yes good friends that actually got to know each other more through this tragedy .
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2013 13:56:05 GMT -8
Yes good friends that actually got to know each other more through this tragedy . Are you friends or in contact with the parents of the 20 kids who didn't survive? Do you see them at the biweekly support meetings? |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2013 14:02:35 GMT -8
No we don't have meetings together. I know they have their own meetings but not with us...
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2013 14:18:02 GMT -8
No we don't have meetings together. I know they have their own meetings but not with us... What? Why not? |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2013 15:35:15 GMT -8
They lost their children, we didn't. We don't belong in there meetings. It's hard enough seeing them at the local grocery store.. ;(
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2013 20:11:17 GMT -8
You have to understand that there. Are so many levels of grief here . I personally have found it easiest to talk with those whose experiences were similar. The poor families are in a much different place than we are. An I can only speak for myself but there is a level of survivors guilt . I left that fire house with 2 traumatized little girls. As thankfuls as I was they they were safe, I also feel guit for feeling that was as so many were not so lucky .it is just such a difficult situation.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2013 20:22:35 GMT -8
kate and mom, so it's YOUR choice to not attend those counseling sessions? Could you attend the meetings if you wanted to?
Seems (to me) that the whole community is grieving and any support those whose children did die would welcome any comfort they could receive.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2013 20:26:13 GMT -8
I would not go, and yes as a town we are all grieving but we were all effected so different and personally speaking with others who were not there I find very scripted for me. I just don't know how to explain it but it's different.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2013 5:50:19 GMT -8
I would not go, and yes as a town we are all grieving but we were all effected so different and personally speaking with others who were not there I find very scripted for me. I just don't know how to explain it but it's different. Hi, mom! (I've been dying to say that, lol..) Please explain the last part of your first sentence..I can't figure out what you're saying. Then I have a question for you. Thanks. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2013 8:14:05 GMT -8
Tuffy. I hope you mean about the part that we are all grieving but differently. It's kind of like when a family member dies. The closer you are to the person the greater the grief and sorrow. Some distant relative or friend of a friend would also be less affected by the loss. For me when I am with someone from town and not our school, I kind of feel like I am being asked questions, but I know it is out of concern. When I bring my children to school and I see a mom with just a look on her face. There sometimes are no words exchanged. We just understand. I hope that makes sense
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2013 13:52:48 GMT -8
Actually, it's the second part that I don't understand. I get the part about deep grief vs 'sorry great-grandpa died'. I don't understand the following, either because of a punctuation error or whatever: "all effected so different and personally speaking with others who were not there I find very scripted for me." My husband was shocked that the families who 'survived' are kept in separate grief counseling sessions than the families who 'died'. SH talks about its close-knit family community, yet in a moment of national crisis, the families can't grieve together?? Something's not right.. Read more: falseflags.proboards.com/thread/259/kate-mom-friends#ixzz2Nvl26NEv |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2013 15:02:08 GMT -8
Actually, it's the second part that I don't understand. I get the part about deep grief vs 'sorry great-grandpa died'. I don't understand the following, either because of a punctuation error or whatever: "all effected so different and personally speaking with others who were not there I find very scripted for me." My husband was shocked that the families who 'survived' are kept in separate grief counseling sessions than the families who 'died'. SH talks about its close-knit family community, yet in a moment of national crisis, the families can't grieve together?? Something's not right.. Read more: falseflags.proboards.com/thread/259/kate-mom-friends#ixzz2Nvl26NEvWe are all grieving together , however as far as counseling goes the level is based on the families needs. If we were talking support groups well I don't see an issue there. It's just like with our kids. Many were stressing group counciling, the issue with that is that you wouldn't want to traumatized a child who did not see much because you have a child in the group who saw way more |
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